The defeat Hugo Chavez took over the weekend in his country reminds us that all leaders eventually must surrender power in big and small ways. The best leaders learn to surrender it while they are still leading. They find a give and take with people that ends up creating a powerful shared coalition of leadership. The more "absolute" one’s leadership becomes, the more likely it is to implode. The more shared the leadership, the more likely it is to grow. Holding on too tight is a sure way to lose.